by jmalouff | Jun 9, 2020 | Human Thinking and Behavior, Mental health problems
Do you think of yourself as a perfectionist? If your perfectionism mostly helps you in life, keep going down that path. I call people in this category not perfectionists but hard workers with high goals. When they fail at something, they feel bad for a short...
by jmalouff | Jun 4, 2020 | Dreams, Human Thinking and Behavior, Mental health problems
When I started my training as a psychologist, I moved in with two students I did not know. One of them told me about an incident the prior year with the other one, “Doug.” Doug went far from home to attend university. Doug, feeling the freedom of being away from...
by jmalouff | Nov 12, 2019 | Mental health problems
I sometimes answer psychological questions on Quora, an online platform for asking and answering questions. Recently, I answered this question: “How do you know if you need psychological therapy?” I responded that it is time to seek psychological help if...
by jmalouff | Nov 11, 2019 | Coping, Mental health problems
There seems to be no limit to the objects that can be the subjects of phobias. Phobias exist when individuals feel great fear or disgust when exposed to some particular type of object. They avoid the object at all costs. I have treated clients for phobias involving...
by jmalouff | Jun 6, 2019 | Coping, Emotions, Human Thinking and Behavior, Mental health problems
Is your life filled with shoulds? As in: I should have gone to work out, you should have come when you said you would, life should be easier than it is. Many people continually think with shoulds. The problem is that this thought ignores reality and makes us feel bad....
by jmalouff | Jun 6, 2019 | Coping, Mental health problems, Social Support
Psychologists believe in the power of social support to help people maintain physical and psychological health. Social support includes emotional or practical support. Emotional support might involve listening to a person and showing empathy and caring. Practical...