by jmalouff | Jul 14, 2019 | Emotions
Decades ago while living in the U.S., I recommended an Arizona friend of mine as a local attorney to assist an out-of-state lawyer. The Arizona attorney later told me that she had never been paid. When I asked the out-of-state lawyer about paying her, he told me...
by jmalouff | Jun 6, 2019 | Coping, Emotions, Human Thinking and Behavior, Mental health problems
Is your life filled with shoulds? As in: I should have gone to work out, you should have come when you said you would, life should be easier than it is. Many people continually think with shoulds. The problem is that this thought ignores reality and makes us feel bad....
by jmalouff | Jun 6, 2019 | Coping, Emotions
Have you had embarrassing experiences? Want to hear some of mine? When I was a teen, I met a woman in her 20s who was on the run from another state for some small crime. We hung out a few times and then I got metal braces on my teeth. When she saw me in them, she...
by jmalouff | Dec 13, 2018 | Bereavement and Grief, Coping, Emotions, Human Thinking and Behavior, Positive psychology, Well-Being
You have heard of the Serenity Prayer? It suggests that a person solve problems where possible and accept that some problems cannot be solved. Accepting what can’t be changed is important to living a happy life. A particular type of acceptance plays an...
by jmalouff | Dec 12, 2018 | Emotions, Mental health problems, Personality
You likely know someone who has borderline personality disorder (BPD). You might have it yourself. A few of my pals have BPD or at least BPD characteristics. This disorder involves being dramatic and erratic in emotions and relationships. Strong negative emotions...
by jmalouff | Dec 11, 2018 | Emotions, Positive psychology, Well-Being
If you have a full-time job working for an organization, you are probably reasonably satisfied with your pay. I am satisfied with my salary as an associate professor of psychology. But if you found out that other employees doing the same work were getting...