by jmalouff | Jun 6, 2019 | Coping, Human Thinking and Behavior
British rower Annie Vernon recently wrote a book in which she described the agony of her team finishing second in the Beijing Olympics. She wanted and expected a gold medal and ended up with silver. Her story reminds me of the brother of one of my high school...
by jmalouff | Jun 6, 2019 | Coping, Emotions, Human Thinking and Behavior, Mental health problems
Is your life filled with shoulds? As in: I should have gone to work out, you should have come when you said you would, life should be easier than it is. Many people continually think with shoulds. The problem is that this thought ignores reality and makes us feel bad....
by jmalouff | Jun 6, 2019 | Coping, Mental health problems, Social Support
Psychologists believe in the power of social support to help people maintain physical and psychological health. Social support includes emotional or practical support. Emotional support might involve listening to a person and showing empathy and caring. Practical...
by jmalouff | Jun 6, 2019 | Coping, Emotions
Have you had embarrassing experiences? Want to hear some of mine? When I was a teen, I met a woman in her 20s who was on the run from another state for some small crime. We hung out a few times and then I got metal braces on my teeth. When she saw me in them, she...
by jmalouff | Mar 7, 2019 | Coping, Mental health problems
When I lived in the U.S., I met a university student, “Graham.” He told me he had been in the South African army prior to the end of apartheid and said that he had seen terrible things. He had short hair and talked with a South African accent. He...
by jmalouff | Mar 6, 2019 | Bereavement and Grief, Coping, Human Thinking and Behavior
Lots of people get cremated when they die. You know the saying: ashes to ashes. The family members of the deceased person then decide what to do with the ashes. The options are limitless. Some families keep the ashes in an urn. Some spread the ashes over...