I recommend the one-hit rule in romantic relationships: If your partner intentionally hits you, leave him or her forever. Leaving may be stressful, but it is better than dying or living in fear. I have a feeling that Gabby Petito, for instance, would still be alive if she had followed this rule of self-respect/self-compassion. 

Might following the rule cost you a salvageable relationship? It is possibie, but there are many nonviolent fish in the sea. 

Do abusers deserve a second chance? Sure, but not with you. Create a permanent learning experience for your abusive partner. 

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