Welcome (back) to UNE and to the first week of full class timetables.
If you are a first year student, or studying on campus for the first time, you are probably meeting heaps of new people. For some people, this is no big deal. For others, it’s more difficult, especially if you’re separated from friends you made in primary school for the first time in your life. If you’re finding it all a bit challenging, ReachOut.com has some hints on meeting new people that you might find helpful.
If you’re in a share house (or one of the Wright flats) and finding that things are getting a bit tense, it’s always better to deal with tensions as early as possible and to set some ground rules for dealing with potentially touchy issues. You might find this basic common sense info helpful or this more in depth set of hints.
When negotiating, it’s always better to talk about the effect that someone else’s behavour is having on you and suggest some way of dealing with it using “I” messages than to blame or shame them using “you” messages. So, you say “I find it really frustrating when I go to the cupboard and find that there’s no toilet paper left. It would be good if we could all get into the habit of putting it on the list when we start on the last roll.” This gives the other person the opportunity to say “Oh, damn. Sorry, I forgot.” If you say “You deadhead. You used the last of the toilet paper and didn’t put it on the list,” it puts the other person on the defensive and often results in their telling you why you’re an deadhead, too, because there’s probably something you do that gets on their nerves.